Thursday, March 12, 2009

Pinky's Fandance, Thursday Edition

One of my favorite speeches found in a movie is from Joey Lauren Adams in Chasing Amy when she tells Ben Affleck about how thorough she's been in her search for finding him. It has the perfect mix of humor, depth, and sincerity and I could listen to it 100 times. I probably relate to it far too much, as she explains her past and how her choices has brought her to this point. Oh, what's that? You'd like to hear it? Well, OK, then. Here you go:
You know, I didn't just heed what I was taught, men and women should be together, it's the natural way, that kind of thing. I'm not with you because of what family, society, life tried to instill in me from day one. The way the world is, how seldom it is that you meet that one person who just *gets* you - it's so rare. My parents didn't really have it. There were no examples set for me in the world of male-female relationships. And to cut oneself off from finding that person, to immediately halve your options by eliminating the possibility of finding that one person within your own gender, that just seemed stupid to me. So I didn't. But then you came along. You, the one least likely. I mean, you were a guy. And while I was falling for you I put a ceiling on that, because you *were* a guy. Until I remembered why I opened the door to women in the first place: to not limit the likelihood of finding that one person who'd complement me so completely. So here we are. I was thorough when I looked for you. And I feel justified lying in your arms, 'cause I got here on my own terms, and I have no question there was some place I didn't look. And for me that makes all the difference.
Joey Lauren Adams was at Sundance a few years ago with a movie of her own which she directed. I was stoked to find her walking into the theater when I was running a little late. I just think she's the coolest thing ever.

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